Wednesday, March 30, 2011

What's The Weather Like Out There?

I am 25 years old and I just realized I am an introvert. Why did it take so long? I can't be sure.

I graduated from law school in May 2010, sat for the bar exam, and learned that I passed in November. The economy being in the shambles it is has led to few interviews. I interview horribly, to say the least. I spend hours rehearsing answers to potential questions and am ready for all the notoriously difficult queries. Once I am sitting in the chair, I am typically well-prepared for most of the questions thrown my way.

Then it happens...

"So, how was your drive?" "Can you believe this weather?" "Oh, you went to such and such college, my cousin went there!"

After having no problem telling the interviewer my life goals for the next 10 years, I sweat over the banter and chit-chat. I mutter a one-word answer or give an awkward chuckle, when I should have sparked a conversation. And the interview swirls down the toilet.

Perhaps I am being dramatic. My poor chit-chat skills cannot possibly be the entire reason why I have yet to receive a solid job offer. I very well may not have enough experience or qualifications. But it sure as hell does not help when I am up against a stack of 30 other resumes of unemployed attorneys.

Hold on a minute. Why would an introvert even consider being an attorney? Believe it or not, lawyering is one of the highest ranked career paths for introverts, presumably due to the fact it requires a lot of thinking about how to respond to possible arguments. This is a skill I have mastered, even in my every day life. I cannot say that is the reason I attended law school though, since I did not classify myself as an introvert at that point. Honestly, I was terrified to go to law school. My fears were (and still are) calmed by the idea that most lawyers never see a courtroom. I truly, I know...that I went to law school to prove everyone in my life wrong, including myself. I refused to be the quiet, smart girl everyone pegged me as. If anything could push me out of "shy", law school would be it.

Three years, a law degree, and a bar license later and everyone was right about me. Well, partly.

Sure, I survived law school and am confident that I would even be comfortable in front of a judge. Yet I still cannot get through a simple interview or group dinner with ease? Law school failed me and I could no longer just chalk it up to "being shy". After an enormous amount of frustration over my interviews and difficult social interactions, I began to read up on what my problem could be.

I decided to look into introversion, but believed there was no way I was that severe. Come to find out, I knew nothing about introversion. My preconceived notions of an introvert were totally false. Many introverts often do well in front of a large group. Check. Most introverts do not engage in chit-chat successfully. Double check. The more I read, the more I connected, and the more I felt...well, normal.

As much as I feel elated to know others feel as I do, I still am struggling. Did I choose the wrong career? Even though introverts often function well as lawyers, will anyone ever hire me if I cannot have a simple conversation or schmooze like the stereotypical, extroverted lawyers do? I have come to accept my introversion, but now I need to find my path.

Monday, March 28, 2011


Hi all! I figure it is important to start with the obligatory introduction blog post.

I am an introvert. I am also a lawyer. Sounds like an AA meeting, but that would be an uncomfortable setting for me, now wouldn't it?

This blog has been born out of my frustrations with living as an introvert and is spawned from my recent, life-changing realization: I am an introvert, this is what I am, and it is not going to change.

This revelation has intensely piqued my interest in what it means to be an introvert and how to live a successful, but more importantly, a happy life in this extrovert-dominant society. This blog will be a bit about what I am learning about myself and introversion in general.

More than anything, I hope it sparks an interest from others out there with similar experiences. I would love to hear from you! Comment or e-mail whenever you like (we introverts like e-mail, don't we?)