tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.comments2014-02-28T19:51:45.713-08:00The Introverted LawyerThe Introverted Lawyerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04744315612061921712noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-71866733831962482682014-02-28T19:51:45.713-08:002014-02-28T19:51:45.713-08:00Wow, I just stumbled upon this blog now and it'...Wow, I just stumbled upon this blog now and it's crazy how much I can relate. I'm about to go to law school and I've been having the same worries. Personally I've embraced my introversion but I have yet to find a career path that will.Issa https://www.blogger.com/profile/15811164947236291426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-89886436562963620862013-05-18T03:14:42.067-07:002013-05-18T03:14:42.067-07:00Was searching for information for medical law soli...Was searching for information for <a title="medical law solicitors" href="http://www.medicalnegligenceclaim.com.au/research-statistics/medical-law-solicitors/" rel="nofollow">medical law solicitors</a> but this is much better - hilarious!! Keep up the articles.Medical Negligence Claim (Australia)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06405125906185251168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-5215799597360165022013-03-20T13:18:15.033-07:002013-03-20T13:18:15.033-07:00I have been involved with a woman for several year...I have been involved with a woman for several years and married for a year. I have explained my status as an introvert to her but it all seems to fall on deaf years. She cannot seem to understand my need for down time or quiet time and seems to take my need for this time for myself to recharge personally. I bought the book "Quiet" and even read her portions of the text. However, she just doesn't seem to get it. One problem is that I am a trial lawyer and I have an outgoing personality in public. I can "act like an extrovert" as they say. However, being in groups of people constantly and being forced to interact drains me. People think of me as an extrovert and don't get me. Of course, as the author of Quiet pointed out, being an introvert and being shy are two different things.<br />Glenn E. Bradfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09638696133587695642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-7097562000642490162013-02-22T10:01:43.397-08:002013-02-22T10:01:43.397-08:00Thank you for sharing. Certainly one of the most e...Thank you for sharing. Certainly one of the most emotionally charged aspects of your divorce concerns your child or children. Tragically, children all too often get caught in the cross-fire of divorcing parents, when what should be ultimately important to everyone concerned is the welfare of the child.<br /><br />- <a href="http://divorce-longisland.com/family-law-lawyer-nassau-county-ny/" rel="nofollow">family law attorney Nassau county, NY</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10631747881994741042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-75702165897116124592013-01-14T03:59:13.393-08:002013-01-14T03:59:13.393-08:00This is really funny...thanks. Everyday I walk the...This is really funny...thanks. Everyday I walk the long way to my desk to avoid a section of lawyers who are alway wanting to chat. Know exactly how you feel. Cheers...Family & The Law <a href="http://www.familyandthelaw.com.au" rel="nofollow">(Family Law Portal)</a> Family Law Portalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18028741730065166957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-41979661460959399902012-12-15T14:47:25.697-08:002012-12-15T14:47:25.697-08:00Hi there, I started reading your blog last summer ...Hi there, I started reading your blog last summer and really enjoyed it as I myself had just recently begun self-identifying as an introvert, and at the time was planning to start law school in the fall. I hadn't checked this site in a while but still had it bookmarked, and I was pleasantly surprised when today I clicked on it out of nowhere (well, really, out of procrastination on a school assignment) and saw that you had updated it pretty recently. I was really sorry to read about what you went through with panic disorder but am really glad you seem to be doing better now! Thanks again for your entries and continued good luck. I will keep checking back.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14260080311869113961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-46444576996544673072012-09-13T02:36:58.330-07:002012-09-13T02:36:58.330-07:00Hi! I am also very happy to have stumbled across ...Hi! I am also very happy to have stumbled across your blog. I am a 26 year old girl and have finally realised that I am also an introvert. I think I have always known it, but hadn't really accepted it until my boyfriend said to me the other day 'you know you're an introvert, don't you?'. As soon as he'd said it, and there was a label to it, it made me feel like it was okay (as well as the fact that he said it was something he likes about me). I swear I've spent my whole life feeling guilty about my introverted behaviour such as taking the long route to avoid bumping into people (oh, how I can relate to this post!) and preferring to stay at home with a book than go out with my friends. One of the worst things I do is make promises that I will go out and attend events (with all the best intentions) but when the time rolls around I really don't want to, and cancel. There's a part of me that wants to be an extrovert (which is why I do that), but I've realised it's high time I accepted that it's just not who I am and trying to be something I am not makes me extremely unhappy.... Thank you for your blog- I love all your posts! beromerilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156147572905346860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-48726503185548462092012-09-03T14:23:44.313-07:002012-09-03T14:23:44.313-07:00Please contact our office to discuss your concerns...Please contact our office to discuss your concerns regarding matrimonial/family law and your divorce mediation needs. Howard A. Wurman, P.C., caters to Nassau County and Suffolk County, Long Island, NY clients and assists individuals and families from Patchogue to Port Jefferson in Suffolk County and Great Neck to Montauk throughout Long Island, NY. Call our lawyers or chat with our representatives today about your choices and options. <a href=http://www.wurmanbankruptcylaw.com/divorce-attorney-long-island.htmlAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14153776053756305209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-51530140589157308782012-02-17T16:33:49.886-08:002012-02-17T16:33:49.886-08:00Thank you for sharing that amazing quote!Thank you for sharing that amazing quote!taidojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923885391701886380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-76369396781341366962011-12-12T23:03:12.458-08:002011-12-12T23:03:12.458-08:00I totally agree with this. I remember being told a...I totally agree with this. I remember being told as a child that you don't talk enough. My junior school report cards even carried grades for Sociability and Initiative...can you beat that !!! And I usually wound up with a C (with A+ being the best). All my Academic grades were an A or A+. I remember Parent Teacher Meetings would always center around how to make me speak more. <br /><br />It has taken me close to 30 years to understand that I'm okay the way I am...but I need to keep reminding myself. <br /><br />Some years back I noticed that my sister's younger daughter was tending towards introversion and her parents were desperately scouting for ways to help her. That's when I stepped in and told them to let her introversion be. I suggested that they encourage and support her with whatever she's good at and instill confidence in her. I explained to them that given her impressionable age if they told her something was amiss in her personality she would grow up believing that to be true, and would find it extremely hard to break free. My sister and her husband are wise so they understood what I had to say and stopped telling her that she needed to change. As of today she is a beautiful teenager, excelling at academics, sports, debating and the arts and completely at peace with her conversational abilities. I couldn't be happier :)<br /><br />BTW, just as in your case, I know that my parents too did their best with what they knew :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-76524114440618903002011-12-12T22:42:05.908-08:002011-12-12T22:42:05.908-08:00Saw your post on a related article on theatlantic....Saw your post on a related article on theatlantic.com<br />I can so totally relate to what you wrote. Am sharing an excerpt of my recent reply to that article:<br /><br />I am married to an E for 3 years now. He has been in positions of leadership throughout college, has organised events and likes meeting new people. He works as a Consultant and is quite a natural when it comes to keeping people engaged. A year back we moved to a new country and I have still not made much effort to make friends (although I have a bunch of really close friends back home). He and I have struggled with our differences in our need for being social. Initially I did not come clean and tried to go along with his preferences as I was afraid of exposing my so called "flaws". Of course, I would be extremely irritable just before and on the days that we had to meet new people. I would get angry and shout at him. But I did not come clean. <br />I always felt inadequate being an I. I now know that my Social Anxiety had a bigger role to play in my case. <br />For the past one year, I have been on a sabbatical from work and have had more time to think and read. I have also shed some layers and come clean with the hubby. He is making an effort to be more understanding. I think he still doesn't quite get it but I appreciate that he is more accepting of the way I am. <br />He had stopped trying to connect with new people as he felt that I was not comfortable meeting them. I went through the pain of dropping my guard and told him that I am fine with him bringing new people over. He just needs to tell me adequately in advance when possible. I like that because of him being an E we have a bit of a social life. To my surprise, I have also connected well with some of the folks he's introduced me to. <br />It has and will continue to be an effort to understand and work with oneself and each other...but it's been proving to be worth it so far :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-47493873450991265962011-10-21T16:41:12.943-07:002011-10-21T16:41:12.943-07:00Sorry I got back to you so late on this.. No, I do...Sorry I got back to you so late on this.. No, I don't mind if you repost - if you think its still relevant. If not, thats cool too. I lost all my bookmarks and this blog was one of them :P. Be sure to delete this comment as well. Thanks!<br /><br />Oh yeah, and get back to blogging!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-25890145544087778102011-08-01T14:14:03.703-07:002011-08-01T14:14:03.703-07:00I totally know what you mean. I've known for a...I totally know what you mean. I've known for a long time that I was an introvert, but now in my mid-20s, I'm trying to figure out my own how-to guide for myself...<br /><br />After a string of extrovert-heavy jobs after college (i.e. retail), I was miserable, struggling to "nail" job interviews as I searched for better jobs, and beginning to wonder if there was something wrong with me. I now work in a research-oriented field, which is a much better fit for my introversion, but my colleagues still don't seem to "get" me. How does one politely say, "Could you please stop talking so I can think?"<br /><br />You may already know this one, but I sometimes refer people to "Caring for Your Introvert" from The Atlantic circa 2003 [http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/2696/]. I also recently read The Introvert Advantage in paperback, and I found the explanations regarding brain chemistry enlightening :)Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14175195741741228503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-40929871204775002592011-07-11T16:17:07.204-07:002011-07-11T16:17:07.204-07:00I'm so glad you have stumbled upon my little b...I'm so glad you have stumbled upon my little blog! Sometimes it's best to just laugh about it. It's wonderful to hear from others that have similar experiences and can relate. Thank you for reading :)The Introverted Lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04744315612061921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-624250481627746502011-07-11T00:06:49.883-07:002011-07-11T00:06:49.883-07:00first of all im so happy i found this site and i f...first of all im so happy i found this site and i found myself crackingup at most of the things you said because they are me, they are almost my same experiences with a little tweeking, life saverUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06545640922945636111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-2221127329690276302011-06-29T19:32:56.211-07:002011-06-29T19:32:56.211-07:00Swishyellow, thank you for this great comment! As...Swishyellow, thank you for this great comment! As a teenager, I had a job in a bakery where I had to constantly scream to the back room. It was SUCH a struggle for me.<br /><br />I can completely relate when you say you worry that your job is going to wear you out. It's frustrating that something that is a key to success in your career, is something so difficult and draining for you and I. <br /><br />I also much prefer e-mail and looove your excuse that you like to have everything in writing. Being a lawyer, I should have already thought of that one.<br /><br />At the very least, it's nice to hear you're not alone. Good luck to you and thanks again for such a great comment!The Introverted Lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04744315612061921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-4285341590171041852011-06-28T19:27:27.730-07:002011-06-28T19:27:27.730-07:00I am so glad to have stumbled upon your blog and t...I am so glad to have stumbled upon your blog and to have read this post. I have struggled with the phone my entire life. My mom actually tried bribery when I was young because she wanted me to pick up the phone once in a while. I had a bunch of temp jobs as an office assistant/receptionist and I was horrible at it because it all involved answering phones. None of those jobs lasted very long- the worst was getting fired after the first day because I just couldn't, with all my might, yell across a large office to an executive's office because the phone transfer system didn't work. "Just yell when I get a call" he said. I was literally praying that the phone wouldn't ring all day. <br /><br />I will always send emails even for little things. I use the excuse that I would rather send emails because I prefer to have everything in writing. So far that is working well. Text messaging is also a god send. <br /><br />I used to be really bad with the phone- always letting it go to voicemail and then replying back with an email. The main thing that motivates me to not hate the phone is to accept that I HAVE to use it. My career depends on being able to contact people on the phone. I have to sometimes cold call to find work or call people I've met in the past to small talk and "catch up" (I'm a freelance photographer). I HATE doing it. But I have to do it. I am totally fine to have a few hours of a high energy photo shoot with people but the best is a huge wave of relaxation going through my body when I get to go home. I love photography but I have to behave like an extrovert in order to make a living out of it. It is exhausting and tiring and I worry that I won't be able to keep up with it. But I have no other passion. My desire to make a living as a photographer drives me. It's hard and extremely difficult to try to be a certain way when my actual brain just doesn't work that way. <br /><br />To everyone struggling with this same issue, I think pursuing a passion or having a goal in mind to reach helps alleviate such anxiety. Unfortunately, calling companies to follow up or to complain about bills over the phone is another thing. It just sucks.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05712312581870963211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-6419936294939538382011-06-25T19:35:35.765-07:002011-06-25T19:35:35.765-07:00Your frustration with it must be worse than mine! ...Your frustration with it must be worse than mine! I feel for you. And I must say, I just love the word douchenozzle...fabulous!The Introverted Lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04744315612061921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-46887681806078087722011-06-25T18:44:36.598-07:002011-06-25T18:44:36.598-07:00I hate loud noises myself. I'm especially sens...I hate loud noises myself. I'm especially sensitive to them being high-tone deaf. As I type this some douchenozzle is setting off fireworks..Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08844261057436339786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-71566406115080369702011-06-12T15:48:01.701-07:002011-06-12T15:48:01.701-07:00What a great comment.
I definitely agree when you...What a great comment.<br /><br />I definitely agree when you say that the anxiety comes from feeling as if you are the only one who thinks this way. You couldn't have said it more perfectly. I've never been able to understand how most people go through their lives ignoring these huge questions. Aren't these the conversations we should be having more frequently? But no, it's taboo to bring up religion, death, the meaning of life...anything that may result in deep debate is conversational Kryptonite. <br /><br />Good for you for owning your introversion! It's something I'm working on every day. Thanks again for this interesting comment, it's great to hear from like-minded readers!<br /><br />Would you mind if I re-posted this on the blog to your credit? Your thoughts on this are too good for people to miss in the comments section.The Introverted Lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04744315612061921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-914907221356127602011-06-12T08:50:13.565-07:002011-06-12T08:50:13.565-07:00I, too, spend a lot of time deep thinking and tryi...I, too, spend a lot of time deep thinking and trying to solve the mysterious. But, I don't think that the anxiety that is caused by this type of thinking is a bad thing - in fact I think it is one of the very purposes of our lives. God knows that most extroverts never come close to grappling with the mysteries of existence. That may seem an unfair statement - but how many times have you tried to talk about the mysteries of life with an extrovert only to be met with a look that a dog gives you when you try to show them a card trick? In fact, that may be our silver bullet for shutting up a classic extrovert - ask them to elaborate on death or the soul's journey or the beginning of the universe. You won't get much of an honest response. Extroverts expend a lot of mouth muscle energy discussing the shallow happenings and gossip of the day. And we, or at least, I, expend a lot of energy trying not to be sucked up in that vacant vacuum - devoid of meaning and any real heart. I think the anxiety I feel isn't necessarily the anxiety about what it all means - rather, it is trying to rationalize why I think this way and seemingly no one else does; trying to maintain my own integrity when everyone else is using everything to keep me in the status quo. I don't see my general tendency to deep think as a disorder or even a negative - I see it as a tool for personal discovery. No one has this life figured out, but introverts seem to have found a lot more peace with their internal universe than the people who spend their waking existence trying to to talk everyone else into their own prisons. No, I'm not bitter - just proud of the progress I have made to selfhood because of my inability to be comfortable in the extrovert mainstream.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-44845709065509837282011-06-06T22:27:14.309-07:002011-06-06T22:27:14.309-07:00I didn't know I'm an introvert till I foun...I didn't know I'm an introvert till I found this article which I share now on my blog: <br />http://xtra-small.blogspot.com/2011/05/10-myths-about-introverts.html<br />I hope you'll find it helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-2870032201848496762011-05-31T15:43:46.871-07:002011-05-31T15:43:46.871-07:00i can relate to this SO much. i was at a wedding n...i can relate to this SO much. i was at a wedding not long ago, and it was a beautiful wedding for wonderful people, but i justed wanted out -- the small talk at the dinner table was slow and excruciating, and then dancing free style in front of hundreds of people i do not know? oh my gosh, no thank you! especially since my husband is also an introvert; he wasn't feeling it either. so maybe we should invest in some dance lessons -- sounds like a great idea!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01779900062460174093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-31196832617477560772011-04-05T16:24:27.562-07:002011-04-05T16:24:27.562-07:00Bree, I have the same situation where my boyfriend...Bree, I have the same situation where my boyfriend actually thrives in a setting like an interview. It's funny how such opposites can attract. Small talk comes so easily to him. I was a criminology major myself, and thought law school was the natural route to take. Law school itself is so stressful that if you don't think it's for you, then definitely don't do it. <br /><br />Best of luck with your interviews. I know it's not easy, try not to get discouraged! :)The Introverted Lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04744315612061921712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5462772315567016864.post-73221437278073486622011-04-05T16:18:13.059-07:002011-04-05T16:18:13.059-07:00It's good to hear that the misunderstandings a...It's good to hear that the misunderstandings are fading, especially in the business world. I am looking forward to checking out your blog. Thanks for sharing!The Introverted Lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04744315612061921712noreply@blogger.com